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"Melihat pada kasus Anda, hendaknya suami mendahulukan yang menjadi kewajibannya, yaitu menafkahi isteri dan anak. Jika kondisinya benar-benar tidak mampu menafkahi ibunya, maka suami tidak berdosa karena Allah tidak membebani seseorang di luar kemampuannya. Hanya saja, hal ini harus dibicarakan secara baik-baik disertai dg pemberian pemahaman. Kalau ibu masih tetap bersikeras untuk mendapat nafkah suami, sementara Anda sebagai isteri ridha demi untuk menjaga keutuhan dan kebahagiaan rumah tangga, maka Anda mendapatkan pahala yang besar insya Allah. Namun jika tidak ridha, Anda berhak untuk menuntut suami."

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Obviously I have plenty of free time to have been reading and researching.

So much for "travelling on a hiatus".

Dad asked if anyone wants to follow him and mom to Melaka for a wedding and I thought, hey why not balik kampung? Also, I've been wanting to go for a mini trip with my parents sans the sisters hahahaha. Getting stucked at home with them for a long weekend.. I cannot do it anymore manz. I'll turn into a monster and one of my resolution is to be patient and I don't wanna burst it very early of the year. :P

For the record, I can't stand girls who:

•  Wake up past 10am.

• Takes forever to help with the house chore. FYI, I'm the kinda person that would be done doing the laundry, vacuumed the whole house, wipe down the window grills, sanitized my vanity area and wash all my makeup brushes, fold all my clothes and on some weekends, I'll help mom to cook and everything will be completed before it strikes noon. To also note that I do this kinda cleaning every Saturday morning. I loveeeeeeee cleaning as it gives me a sense of satisfaction. But I get really irritated when no one helps to clean orrr will do all the cleaning up at after lunch and dilly dally with their time. Nak mintak kene spray air!

 Nonetheless, I'm really thankful that my second sister, Shahidah, have been really helpful in keeping the room and house neat and tidy. Praying hard that she will cultivate all this sincerely and continue doing so when I'm no longer around. My parents, are not getting any younger yo! :(

Anyway, we are hoping that there will still be available bus tickets during the CNY period despite the news that I've been reading. I can't wait to purchase a VVIP coach for the Melaka tip + we've agreed on a Peranakan theme boutique hotel for our 2 nights there! We planned to head to Larkin this Saturday noon and may god bless us with zero queue for whatsoever. It'll also be a great time for me to stock up on my ZA two way powder (uses this to set my liquid foundie), wet wipes (yes please!) and get myself a hair trim! x

"You can't wait forever. Do something and make it happen."

I set to be the best that I can be but I tend to stop doing things halfway. So much words and so little actions from me to myself and the only person to blame is.. Yeah you know, me. I know that perhaps my life is supposed to go the other way around but disappointment creeps in once in a while and I'll question why haven't I complete a certain "achievement" bla bla bla. I don't know if I'm supposed to lower my expectations and work with what I have now or what? Scratch that. On second thoughts, that's what I will have to do - Work with what I have. I choose not to lower any expectations till I try completing it even if it takes me 5 years to do. Will be 30 years old by then but heck, better late than never. And nope, shall not write down the list of things I wanna complete but I will do so when I get some real action going.

At the end of the day, I'm doing this for myself and no one else.

November 29th.

I left for Phuket a day before my birthday and the plan was to meet my family there once they're done with their 4D3N in Bangkok. As much as I was excited, I was feeling anxious or rather, very gelisah for god knows why. I mean, I've been on a plane on my own twice before so... I don't know what kinda emotions settled in me but ya. My Sayang picked me up at around 8ish right after NUS 110 Concert in the Park ended (this is another event altogether and my source of income for the past 3 years 8 months fyi hahaha). In fact that few days prior to 30th November, he's been such a sweetheart fetching, feeding, carrying, whatever la. He did it all and I'm one hell of a lucky lady. I just hope he feels like he's the luckiest man on earth as well. :P

 The card that he bought and had an essay in it, is something that I keep close to my heart. And you know, when someone writes from his/her heart, you can somehow feel it. This goes to their actions as well. He picked that gorgeous pair ("paling lawa kalau you yang pakai") but that other silver ware was what I had the most fun with. It's a musical turn and twist thingy that will play the tune of a 'Happy Birthday' song in the most classical way ever. It was something he got when he was in New Zealand and have been keeping it for the longest time (boy was he excited when he it was November 29th!) before he surprises me with it! I love it. Also, that's the second red box he got me for our special occasion. Will the third red box be it? #ifyouknowwhatimean

Had a quick dinner at Al-Azhar before I head home to do finally packing. Zaki left for his usual midnight soccer match and here comes the scary part. He went to JB right after for petrol x car wash x burger, the usual things he or we do when we have time together butttt there was a slight jam when he's entering back to SG anddddd he fetched me a little late to the airport. Both of us were pretty cool and we could have reached on time if there wasn't a traffic jam (again) at the east side. Thank god he was smart + confident enough and I was a willing risk taker (i'm barely one), to re-route our self in order to avoid the slow moving traffic. Rushed and the moment when we had to part ways, I did so reluctantly but I got out of the car quite fast as I was afraid I would cry. HAHAHA yupp I was bloody emotional. Ps: 3rd day of menses and bleeding heavily. Stupid. So annoying.

+ I didn't have to queue for my boarding pass. I just have to scan my itinerary and passport then voila, boarding pass's printed automatically! That surely saved a lot of time and of course, I had to call him back to ask if he had driven far or still have a chance to park to see me off. #wantedtocrysayinggoodbye #clingyiknow. I had a feeling that he either was driving slowly or actually did a quick u-turn to park at T2? Before he took the sky train and met me beside the famous tear drops of Changi Airport. Anyway, we lingered around for 10mins (KFC had a longgg queue and I was honestly famished but luck wasn't exactly on our side) before it's time for me to rush in. At that very moment, I knew I love this dude too much. Way too much and that's erm.. Scary guise.

FIRST DAY MENSES

I hate hate hate when the time of the month comes to visit me. It hurts so badly without fail. Constant fainting spells, both my uterus wall and legs cramp up like nobody's business and the worst part is my back aches like mad. I want to cry and sleep and cry and sleep some more.

No amount of painkillers help anymore. :(

Lav lav lav youuu.

I'm just feeling a little nostalgic and thought hey why not take a trip down memory lane + try to kill two birds with one stones and have some parts of my love life documented here before erm.. I forget!

Weirdly right after this, all you guys are gonna see are photos taken when we went to East Coast Park many months ago for our grilled wings + lemon sugar cane juice (obviously not in photos because we we were too hungry!!!) cycling date and seriously, we should have been in PE attire because it was so hot?! Like we were sweating and disgusting but oh wells, you know when people are in love, nothing's all that bad. In fact, nothing's bad and I've been loving this relationship to the max! Hehehehe.

Of course nothing's complete till I get some #OOTD shots in but what you see here is my inner mak nenek versions. 

Basically how Zaki looks like when:

1) Him: "Sayang da lawa laaa. Cepat laaa." 

2) Me: "Sayang do the BJ Kadir pose!" (AND HE LAYANKAN! HAHAHA)

And we took the opportunity to do the infamous shot of.. Yeah you know.. And actually had tons of fun doing so. I was amazed at how cooperative my Sayang was. He genuinely was into it and kept asking me to pose. HAHAHAHA I on the other hand, carik chan la. We did his version too but it all ended way too serious so.. I shall not post them here! Hahahhaha.

Kenape kau handsome?

 I think the above u g l y photos are up and taken by my Sayang simply because after one point of time, all I wanted to do was edit photos and have it uploaded on Instagram! Thus, it probably was his idea of revenge. I think la. For now I'm just assuming hahahaha. But I'm totally fine coz I think the fact that he have seen me sans foundation, is a big deal already (for me at least!) and erm my unwashed hair etc. + I'm always pretty in his eyes HAHAHAHA so, there's really no worries on my side anymore. Though without a doubt, I ain't slacking on my makeup and skincare regime! I mean, no lady should ever slack on keeping yourself beautiful.

XX

If you want better, go get better.

At 25 and I think I really need to put my shit together. I feel like I've been spending way more than I should have and that my savings are not increasing by how much I envisioned it to be. I pretty much told myself that right after my Vietnam trip is over (yes I just came back from Phuket with family heheheh), I'll go on a travel hiatus till 2017 June. In sha allah I'll be able to graduate by then! It's always been one of my "goals" before I do the next 2 crazy things in life. 1) Solo Trip. 2) Get married.

I would love to finally put on braces in 2016 and that before I leave for my solo trip, I'll have perfect straight teeth that it gonna be as white as snow white. Hahahaha. Just gotta pray hard that I will remove my wisdom tooth with ease, I have 4 to remove fyi, and that I will be okay after a week. I can't be bothered to remove 2 at a time and then suffer for one more time. :(

 In a nut shell, here's what my life plan is gonna be like:

1. To have my braces on and hope to have it removed in 18 mths = June 2017.
2. To pass all my modules and graduate with a Bachelor in 18 months = June 2017
3. To go crazy and do one hell of a good solo trip upon graduation = November 2017
4. To do a CO2 laser treatment to remove my acne scars = March 2018
5. To khatam quraan omg please before I get married = June 2018
6. To in sha allah have a beautiful solemnization with my Sayang = August 2018
7. To own a place called mine that is clean and lovely in all aspect = December 2019
8. To have major renovations done for the home = December 2020
9. To have mini Shiqs and Zaki in sha allah hahahahaha so scary so much blood = December 2020.
10. To own a car or a black Birkin before I turn 35.

Of course, I can only sketch and work towards all that la. But at the end of the day, God will decide and I'm praying hard that God and I will have some kinda telepathy and that we'll be in the same path. Hahahaha.  The year have yet to end but I hope that when 2016 comes, I will be more discipline. Read somewhere that what I need is 3-6 months in order to have that kinda commitment and it'll be easier to move on from then on. For 2016, all I have to do is concentrate on building my savings more before I start mini investing. Haiya idk la, I've just been reading on articles this whole year and I thought I should try it out when I'm young. We shall see...

And yes, life does not end when I get the #10. I have pretty much budgeted on how much we need to put aside for the major renovations, if we should proceed with loans and if yes how much, the amount to set monthly for our kids primary and secondary education, the budget for our holidays and many more. Won't be covering all these in one post but I will when I feel like it. :P

Till then lovelies, plan for your future. x

In loving memory of my long hair.

 Oh god it'll be another year before it's gonna get to those lengths. :(