1. Make peace with your parents. Whether you finally recognize that
they actually have your best interests in mind or you forgive them for
being flawed human beings, you can’t happily enter adulthood with that
familial brand of resentment.
2. Kiss someone you think is out of your league; kiss models and med
students and entrepreneurs with part-time lives in Dubai and don’t worry
about if they’re going to call you afterward.
3. Minimize your passivity.
4. Work a service job to gain some understanding of how tipping
works, how to keep your cool around assholes, how a few kind words can
change someone’s day.
5. Recognize freedom as a 5:30 a.m. trip to the diner with a bunch of strangers you’ve just met.
6. Try not to beat yourself up over having obtained a ‘useless’
Bachelor’s Degree. Debt is hell, and things didn’t pan out quite like
you expected, but you did get to go to college, and having a
degree isn’t the worst thing in the world to have. We will figure this
mess out, I think, probably; the point is you’re not worth less just
because there hasn’t been an immediate pay off for going to school. Be
patient, work with what you have, and remember that a lot of us are in
this together.
7. If you’re employed in any capacity, open a savings account. You
never know when you might be unemployed or in desperate need of getting
away for a few days. Even $10 a week is $520 more a year than you
would’ve had otherwise.
8. Make a habit of going outside, enjoying the light, relearning your friends, forgetting the internet.
9. Go on a 4-day, brunch-fueled bender.
10. Start a relationship with your crush by telling them that you
want them. Directly. Like, look them in the face and say it to them.
Say, I want you. I want to be with you.
11. Learn to say ‘no’ — to yourself. Don’t keep wearing high heels if
you hate them; don’t keep smoking if you’re disgusted by the way you
smell the morning after; stop wasting entire days on your couch if
you’re going to complain about missing the sun.
12. Take time to revisit the places that made you who you are: the
apartment you grew up in, your middle school, your hometown. These
places may or may not be here forever; you definitely won’t be.
13. Find a hobby that makes being alone feel lovely and empowering and like something to look forward to.
14. Think you know yourself until you meet someone better than you.
15. Forget who you are, what your priorities are, and how a person should be.
16. Identify your fears and instead of letting them dictate your
every move, find and talk to people who have overcome them. Don’t settle
for experiencing .000002% of what the world has to offer because you’re
afraid of getting on a plane.
17. Make a habit of cleaning up and letting go. Just because it fit
at one point doesn’t mean you need to keep it forever — whether ‘it’ is
your favorite pair of pants or your ex.
18. Stop hating yourself.
19. Go out and watch that movie, read that book, listen to that band you already lied about watching, reading, listening to.
20. Take advantage of health insurance while you have it.
21. Make a habit of telling people how you feel, whether it means
writing a gushing fan-girl email to someone whose work you love or
telling your boss why you deserve a raise.
22. Date someone who says, “I love you” first.
23. Leave the country under the premise of “finding yourself.” This
will be unsuccessful. Places do not change people. Instead, do a lot of
solo drinking, read a lot of books, have sex in dirty hostels, and come
home when you start to miss it.
24. Suck it up and buy a Macbook Pro.
25. Quit that job that’s making you miserable, end the relationship
that makes you act like a lunatic, lose the friend whose sole purpose in
life is making you feel like you’re perpetually on the verge of
vomiting. You’re young, you’re resilient, there are other jobs and
relationships and friends if you’re patient and open.
Via Thought Catalog.
Via Thought Catalog.
